I need info and help on repeat c-section?

I came back from my first check-up with ob-doc and she told me that I MUST have repeat c-section! I AM SOOO DISAPOINTED!!! I wanted to go for VBAC, but I was not aware of all the complications that come with it. Both of the pregnancy were conceived through fertility clinic, from the beginning of my second preg I needed meds to keep it going, and I don’t think after all that I went thru I want to risk more complications! My first c-section was emergency, he didn’t fit, after over 19 h of labour and 2h of pushing and even vacuum didn’t help and on top of that my epidural failed to work constantly on right side. I was VERY scared of the c-section(but didn’t show). After c-section I became very depressed. I didn’t feel like he was my baby, I felt like I lost him, and to make things even worst they had to knock me out when they pulled him out because I FELT EVERYTHING so I only heard him cry. Recovery for my was VERY FAST I was out the second day (I hate hospitals but who doesn’t)!!!

I need info and help on repeat c-section?
Your story is so similar to what happened with my wife and I. Our first baby was c-section and my wife had bad depression after that. With our second my wife really wanted to do a VBAC and our OB was willing to try. However during the pregnancy my wife got gestational diabetes and due to the fact she was 38 years old and had a previous c-section it was highly recommended we go with another c-section. At first my wife was really depressed at the thought. However by the time our baby was due to come she had come to peace about it.





My advice would be to check in with yourself as to why you want to do a VBAC. Only you can know the answer. If it is because you want to experience natural childbirth, or you feel like a failure because you "can't" deliver normally, I would say those are not good reasons in the face of real medical risks.





For me the most important thing is a happy and healthy mommy and baby. How that happens is not nearly as important. I'm so grateful that I live in a society that has options.





Anyway, my second baby was planed c-section. Everyone turned out quite happy and healthy afterward. My wife didn't have much in the way of depression. In many ways, after we let go of the expectations of how we thought things were supposed to go everything was easier and smoother. Both of my children are happy and very healthy and I don't give it much thought how they first came into the world. I'm just glad they are here!
Reply:From the statistics of vbac after c sections I choose another c section. With this one ask for a spinal instead of an epidural. I liked the spinal better anyway. My first was an emergency and second and third were optional. At the hospital a nurse told me it was a good choice. Because the risk of a ruptured uteras was high and very likely. With my first i couldn't see him till the next day. I know the feeling. But it was worth the wait to know that he was ok after what happend.
Reply:Hello I had to have repeated C/S and yes it sucks but I had a Uterine Rupture and almost died with my baby(32 weeks) I felt everything too my spinal didnt work. the pregnancy after that I was told it be another repeat section due to risks of another rupture.I had a epidural with something and didnr feel a thing.


I'm sorry u feel so disconnected from ur baby i hope its better now.I think u beeen thru alot to concieve these babies I would do anything to keep those babies even if it means having C/S


Good Luck and I hope this C/S will be better maybe u can talk before hand to the docs about ur fear they worked with my fears.
Reply:I just recently had my second chil my first was an emergency c-section. my epidural didnt work and they had to put me out too. After i had her i also became depressed and i had a very hard time bonding.So with my second i was very worried about the same thing happening and i made the resolution not to let those same feelings happen again. i had my c-section with no problems and couldnt love my baby more. It went better the second time around. You will do just fine. Good luck.
Reply:I had my first baby by an emergency C-section (I had placental abruption).


With my second, I thought of a VBAC, but my doctor wasn't a supporter. At the end, I saw 5 different docs, 2 didn't recommended it (their excuse was risk of rupture , which now I know is less than 1%) , 1 said that I could try, and the other 2 said it was my decision (what made me feel like if something went wrong it was going to be my fault...). I opted for a repeated C-sec and now I regret it. Even though everything for the second was less traumatic (pain, recovery, stress, epidural) than with the first one, everybody at the hospital made me feel like "the one who chose the repeated C...", as if I were less worthy that the others. Sounds stupid, but that's how I felt: I gave up without even trying.


So now with my third one, I want to try a VBAC. I have gotten information (those 2 websites suggested for other people here are worthy to check!), I'm looking for support, I'm taking a course at the hospital and really want to go for it. If I end with another C-sec, at least I tried!


Good luck!
Reply:Find an ob/gyn that will do vbacs because the truth is that vbacs can be safer then repeat c-sections which can lead to all kinds of complications.





What is the bottom line?


If you do not have a clear and compelling need for a cesarean in the present pregnancy, having a VBAC rather than a repeat c-section is likely to be:





* safer for you in this pregnancy


* far safer for you and your babies in any future pregnancies








When thinking about the welfare of your baby in the present pregnancy, there are trade-offs to consider: VBAC has some advantages, and a repeat c-section has others. You can learn more below.





As you consider these, keep in mind that on average, 3 out of 4 women who labor after a c-section will give birth vaginally with care that encourages and supports VBAC (and fewer than 1 in 100 will experience the scar giving way). Even in cases where women scored 0 to 2 on a scale where 10 indicated greatest likelihood of vaginal birth, half gave birth vaginally.





* Physical problems for mothers: Compared with vaginal birth, cesarean section increases a woman's risk for a number of physical problems. These range from less common but potentially life-threatening problems, including hemorrhage (severe bleeding), blood clots, and bowel obstruction (due to scarring and adhesions from the surgery), to much more common problems such as longer-lasting and more severe pain and infection. Even after recovery from surgery, scarring and adhesion tissue increase risk for ongoing pelvic pain and for twisted bowel.


* Hospital stays: If a woman has a c-section, she is more likely to stay in the hospital longer and to be re-hospitalized.


* Emotional well-being: A woman who has a c-section may be at greater risk for poorer overall mental health and some emotional problems. She is also more likely to rate her birth experience poorer than a woman who has had a vaginal birth.


* Mother-baby relationship: A woman who has a c-section is more likely to have less early contact with her baby and initial negative feelings about her baby.


* Breastfeeding: Recovery from surgery poses challenges for getting breastfeeding under way, and a baby who was born by c-section is less likely to be breastfed and get the benefits of breastfeeding.


* Impact on babies: Babies born by c-section are more likely to:


o be cut during the surgery (usually minor)


o have breathing difficulties around the time of birth


o experience asthma in childhood and in adulthood.


* Impact on any future babies: A cesarean section in this pregnancy increases risk for babies in future pregnancies. Some research finds that babies who develop in a scarred uterus are more likely to:


o be born too early (preterm)


o weigh less than they should (low birth weight)


o have a physical abnormality or injury to their brain or spinal cord


o die before or shortly after the birth
Reply:That doctor is more than likely not supportive of VBACs very few are.





See if you can get some help finding a different doctor:


http://www.ican-online.org/